Poor and bad parenting skills. 5 tips and advice for Christian family

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Bad parenting arises as a result of subsequent acts of poor nurturing of kids that invariably harm their conduct and mindset. Some parents, later on, may feel guilty and will try to reconcile but the after effect of such actions on the child can be so difficult to correct. But obviously, some other parents do not realize their mistake since the act was not intentional or possibly they are too busy to learn to become a great parent. Some parents don’t just care enough while others are not fully prepared for a worst-case situation of their children. These actions and resulting effects add up to denote poor and bad parenting skills.

I was in the restaurant one day where everyone was distracted by a little girl of about 5 years old who was throwing tantrums at her parents. It happened that the family was ready to leave the restaurant, but the little girl insisted she was not going to move a foot until she gets more ice-cream. The mother pleaded, the daddy yelled, but all to no avail. The dad forcefully carried her out with her much screaming and wailing.

It was indeed a pitiable scene to behold. I noticed that everyone that witnessed the scenario nodded in disapproval to the child’s ill manner. It dawned on me that the parents are to be blamed for that, not just the child. It was obvious that the parents had failed in the proper upbringing of that child.  If not urgently corrected the little girl might grow up to have a much worse behavior.

Parenting tipsParents are responsible for imparting values and developing their children’s character, spiritually, emotionally, physically and psychologically. When parents fail to carry out their respective roles or responsibilities to their kids, then the purpose of God establishing the family and putting children under them have been abolished.

Many people today have suffered from the effect of poor and bad parenting. We’ve heard stories from people on how they had a neglected childhood and from some who said they suffered from favoritism.

When it comes to talking about bad parenting, we seem to deal with a good deal of different contrary categories. For example, there’s the badness that is harmful, in which everyone expresses dismay. Then there is one that is practically aspirational, the kind of messy behavior that only serves to demonstrate that you’re a real mummy or daddy.

Poor and Bad Parenting Examples

Parents do usually feel that they would do all for their child, but no matter the level of powerful affection and love, children are at the receiving end of parenting fails. Most often, they ponder on things like: “Am I a bad parent for doing this? I can say that no parent is perfect. If you’re wondering what qualifies someone as a truly bad parent, and how to avoid or correct it, this article is for you.

One of the bad parenting procedures is seen in parents who just can’t say “no” to their children.

One of the bad parenting procedures is seen in parents who just can’t say “no” to their children. They love to say “yes” because when they do, everyone seems happy and satisfied. This set of parents usually overprotect and pamper their kids.  Mostly, children raised by such parents suffer from boredom, often grow up too quickly and unable to bring up strong emotional limits with others.

Another example is seen in parents who do nothing to stop the bad behavior or ill manners in their children but instead turn a blind eye to their conduct. As the Bible stated that you shall reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7). Others are full of criticism for their children. They can’t seem to appreciate any effort done by their children. Some even compare their kids with other kids. These make the child feel inferior and afraid to interact with people.

Parents that are absent from the daily events of their children’s lives end up raising kids that have low self-worth, that expects inordinate attention from others. These parents are not always available in the important moments of their child’s life.

More other mistakes people make during parenting is forcefully driving their kids into achieving the same success they themselves were driven to attain. This driver parent ends up raising kids that often struggles with addiction and that is unable to play or unwind. Bad parenting can also be viewed in the case in which parents are double minded in mentoring their kids. They see adulthood as the time to fulfill all their dream, in which the children are just a small part of that envisioned dream. They end up raising up children who are tangled on what it means to follow God.

The Bible states in Psalms 127:3-5 that: “Children are a gift from the Lord” They are God’s possessions, not ours. God has temporarily placed us to be their caretakers on earth. We have been assigned the task to nurture and train them in the way of the Lord so that they can fulfill their God-given purpose on earth. From the beginning, the family has been designed to reflect and flesh out the spiritual truth. The Bible uses the image of the church to reflect our relationship with God in Christ (Romans 8:15-17, Hebrews 12:5-11, 1 John 3:1).

But despite these errors in parenting styles, God had given hope to any believer who is ready and willing to walk step-by-step each day with Him. God gives grace and strength to parents to train good and Godly parents.

5 TIPS AND ADVICE TO AVOID POOR AND  BAD PARENTING

  • Deliberately train your children

Engage quality time in intentionally teaching your child about the Lord and their lifestyle on earth. (2 Timothy 2:2). Don’t think they will learn things on their own, at school, or in the church. They certainly won’t learn from these places. The children primary spiritual and moral training ground should be the home. Address unsuitable conduct and attitudes, and teach them in God’s approach to each character issue. It is your obligation to make certain that your children know and serve the Lord.  Spend personal devotional time with them, pray with them, and read the Bible with them. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7, Ephesians 6:4).

  • Be a decent role model

As parents know that you are your child’s first role model. What you say, or do is what would be imparted on them. Children copy more of actions than words. Set the pace for them to follow. We have seen children who we often times ignored, mimicking our words and action.  (1 Corinthians 11:1, Titus 2:1-10). God knows how important the role of parents can affect the overall attitude of a child that was why He instructed in the book of Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”

  • Create a personal relationship with them

Developing a good relationship with your children will make them have a better, and earlier relationship with God. God wants the family to be an example of His relationship with man (Ephesians. 5:6, Genesis 1:27, Colossians 3:16-25). Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right (Proverbs 20:11). Believe me, your children’s conduct is obvious to observers. It is actually a part of your total testimony. A child’s conduct is important to God and should, therefore, be of great importance to parents.

  • Discipline your children

You must imbibe the attitude of disciplining your children always, diligently and early in life too. Love and discipline go hand in hand. Don’t neglect what the Bible says in Proverbs 13:24 “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” You can’t neglect the aspect of inputting discipline into your child because the resulting effect might be hurting to the whole family. And when you do, let it be in a combined form of Godliness and much love (Proverbs 29:15,17, Proverbs 22:15).

  • Love your kids

Don’t only tell your children that you love them, show them your love too. Children grow better in an environment of love. Love is powerful and infectious. Praise your children, show them physical affection, be a part of their life and concern, give them a portion of your time in love. Love is at its best when it is giving (Ephesians 5:25).

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